Really missing you

This is about how you are truly being missed.

Like a well crafted clockwork, it begins with the basic routine in the morning preparing to leave home.

Amidst heavy traffic, we immersed into our other self. Often the darker one. Surely without politeness and courtesy.

In a rush we clock for the fulfillment of the time which we wage ourselves for.

At midday, the decisiveness role of whom to eat with and what to eat tolls the only hour that we might have.

Only to return to our station to faithfully fulfill our daily obligations.

The final hour struck and we call it a day but, “ring, ring”…. it’s the mobile.

Relaxing with the drive home radio program and yet drowning into yet another traffic crawl rushing home.

Finally back home, home sweet home where Daddy’s little girl wants some time with her bedtime story after dinner.

Having tucked our angels to bed, and with our loved ones snuggling at the late night news.

We looked again at the most missed person of the day…..

It’s at the mirror. You finally remembered, what happened today. “I really missed you”. I have not been with MYSELF the entire day.

In our daily lives, we often focus so much on our surrounding and the people whom we love and interact with, only to missed the mere fact that they are who they are to us simply because of our existence. In short, Love Ourself.

“Genuine love should first be directed at oneself – if we do not love ourselves, how can we love others?” Dalai Lama

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He who shares never fails to learn

Setting out for a journey to achieve ones dreams would take a lot of thinking and planning. It’s almost at every point that sometimes we wonder that we could ever learn enough. Having self-confidence and believe is one thing but to achieve what we set forth to achieve, we know that we need to continuously learn.

From our schooling days and within our own education system we all learn by merely reading and observing. Sometimes not knowing what should we learn or rather what we should unlearn. Then came the internet era where we are in the “K Economy” as in the knowledge economy whereby the internet provides almost all the answer that we could acquire. Aside from books that is, the internet truly provides us the comfort of learning.

During the past weeks, I was being busy with the drawing board to my future endeavors. I set forth daily meeting new friends and share with all that what I would be embarking on. With that, I realized that what I shared was more valuable than any learning that I could have from books and any other resources.

Maybe its the passion. Maybe it’s not a one way communication as in reading or maybe there is just so much more to learn. Learning from sharing on how other people would have perceived a certain thing or topic. And mostly, the “aha” moment flashing before us. And that’s when we know that we’ve learned more than to have shared with others.

And as most religions would have preached, “giving is better than receiving”. When one give, there must be one who is to receive and in return give to the one who has initially given.

Take your time…. really?

As I pen this, I realized that I have been playing catch up with my time. Funny as it seems, I was wondering about this like a month ago that by now I would have all the time in the world. Hmmmmmnnn, looks like time interprets differently to different people at different situations.

As I reflex on my pass, there wasn’t a time when I had enough time. Right from the days of my schooling days, time wasn’t enough until now, being into the employment world. Deadlines… deadlines. That’s why they’re spelled D-E-A-D-L-I-N-E-S.

And now I began to wonder, what’s with all these people who seems to have more time for everything else. It’s just that same 24 hours. Why and what’s the difference? Many of us define time as the minutes-hand or hour-hand that moves clockwise thereby giving us a measurement of what we call time. But, what about during those medieval times when clock wasn’t invented? The position of the sun?

To me, as I begin to ponder, time is just a void between accomplishing what is needed of us. Imagine… when we are so focused in doing something or let’s just say enjoying something, time flies but we don’t look back and say we don’t have time cause we realized that we had optimized the available time to accomplish what we set out to do.

Focus…. that may be the keyword. With that we know that we would be accomplishing more than others giving the same resources thereby translating into others that may say “Why is he having so much time?”.

So the next time we know that we are running out of time or when are short of time, just focus and accomplish whatever that is needed. The phrase which we hear from young “Take your time…” actually doesn’t really help. Focus and accomplish, thereby knowing instantly that we have that extra time to accomplish more.

The one with the Muruku…

It was late at night and the only snack in the bedroom was a canister of muruku….

Wife: Are you hungry?

Hubby: Not really…..

Wife: Pass me that canister of muruku.

Hubby reached out to the side of the bed and handed over the canister of muruku to the wife. 1 min, 2 mins….. 5 mins. *crack, crunch* It was the hubby who was eating the muruku, more and more he dipped his fingers into the canister. Somehow, wondering why his wife was not eating it at all. After enjoying a whole lot of some muruku, thirst sets in. Hubby looked around looking for the water bottle only to realized that it was downstairs.

Hubby: Am going down to drink water and take the water bottle up, Dear.

Wife: Uh, ok.

As the hubby walked away and upon reaching the door to go downstairs, turned around and looked at his wife.

Hubby: You didn’t want to eat those muruku after all, you knew! You wanted to drink.

And they both laughed and thought that either one would have out-smarted the other.

The moral of the story is when we have our objectives and dreams set, sometimes there are many ways to achieve the desired results. After all, as the saying goes “all roads lead to Rome”.

Cast: Hubby (Sunny Lee), Wife (Mrs. Lee)…….need I say more, she got to drink after all.

Whose problem is it REALLY?

A man feared his wife wasn’t hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem.

The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here’s what you do,” said the Doctor, “stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.”

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, “I’m about 40 feet away, let’s see what happens.” Then in a normal tone he asks, ‘Honey, what’s for dinner?”

No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again he gets no response.

So he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

“James, for the FIFTH time I’ve said, CHICKEN!”

The problem may not be with the other person as we always think, could be very much within us!

Author: Anonymous

To every action there is always an equal reaction?

Everyday, we faced with many encounters with the people who we meet each day. Yeah… almost all of us wake up to an equally brand new day. We start our day thinking about all the excitement that we are about to receive every moment in our day.

Then, we realized that as human as we are, we sometimes go through a roller-coaster of mood swings or emotional change within the day. And, we very well know that it is we ourselves that we need to be reminded of how we re-act to each and every moment. This brings us to what Sir Isaac Newton’s third law of motion which is the Law of Reciprocal Actions.

To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions”.

True enough, our emotions react with the action of our sub-consciousness to anything by giving an equal reaction. That slow car in front of us, the grumpy partner, the mischievous kid, the rude waiter, the insensitive employee and to some of us that ever demanding boss.

For that very moment, we set ourselves in that very reaction of mood that we reflect it back to the other person only to realize later that it should not be reacted in that very manner. However, it is how fast we snap out of that state of emotion that really matters and to focus back into our mood that we intended it to be at the beginning of our day.

To me, its ok to be snapping into these moods of not being ourselves but a successful person would be one who almost immediately snapping back into their intended state of mind. Furthermore, we can’t be controlling what the other person is thinking or what might he may be going through.

Life is as such. Everyone that we meet, friends, loved ones, colleagues and even total strangers carry their own fair share or burdens on their backs. It is only nature that they have to let it out to the people that they meet. They like us too, do not like to pour out these mood swings to anyone.

We may think that we can’t be helping them, or we can’t be controlling what or how they behave with their moods. Think again! Instead of giving them the equal reaction to their action, we could break it and just SMILE. Priceless to that person who would receive those smiles and effortless to those who send them.

SMILE…. and if they noticed, you’ve let them find someone whom they can be relieving their baggage of burden. And when they relieve upon us, don’t take it personally and move on. We’ll be glad that we did, for someday, we would be also looking for someone else to relieve our own fair share of baggage of burdens and to be SMILED at.

What if we can’t afford a single mistake?

We’re often told that we should be learning from our mistakes and that we should always be standing up after we fall. Maybe this might give some of us some impression of having to taste certain degree of failures before we could succeed in what we want. But does this acts as a form of motivation? What, we fall and then climb up? Pushed ourselves so hard so that we would know the limit (when we fall?).

Alain Robert, a guy who shot to stardom with his numerous feats of scaling high rise buildings across the globe and also being handcuffed most of every time he scales a building. I received an email about Alian with pictures of him scaling some buildings. Besides giving me this “wow” feeling, I wondered. What is he doing it for? What’s in for him? So I decided to google him and I realized that he is a motivational speaker.

Actually, it really doesn’t matter who Alain is? But what ticks him to perform such death defying stunts. I visualized myself performing those feats. Nope, can’t be. You can’t even afford to make a single mistake. And, if you really do, you will not live to realize that you’ve made a mistake.

Climbing is my passion, my philosophy of life. Although I suffer from vertigo, although my accidents left me disabled up to 66%, I have become the best solo climber” Alain Robert.

Imagine just what would it be like if we were to have that courage to pursue what we would have wanted. Would we embark on something knowing that we could not even make a single mistake? Be grateful, thats what we were told. We have received so much even if we have fallen and made mistakes. I would say that we’re lucky or at least have certain degree of luxury of making mistakes and yet see our day through. Imagine if we’re like Alian Robert, where no mistakes are granted. Would we still be able to live through our day?

So, would it still be “Success is learning from a series of failures” or “Success is just not failing”. We would just have to figure this out.