Archive for March, 2010

Take your time…. really?

As I pen this, I realized that I have been playing catch up with my time. Funny as it seems, I was wondering about this like a month ago that by now I would have all the time in the world. Hmmmmmnnn, looks like time interprets differently to different people at different situations.

As I reflex on my pass, there wasn’t a time when I had enough time. Right from the days of my schooling days, time wasn’t enough until now, being into the employment world. Deadlines… deadlines. That’s why they’re spelled D-E-A-D-L-I-N-E-S.

And now I began to wonder, what’s with all these people who seems to have more time for everything else. It’s just that same 24 hours. Why and what’s the difference? Many of us define time as the minutes-hand or hour-hand that moves clockwise thereby giving us a measurement of what we call time. But, what about during those medieval times when clock wasn’t invented? The position of the sun?

To me, as I begin to ponder, time is just a void between accomplishing what is needed of us. Imagine… when we are so focused in doing something or let’s just say enjoying something, time flies but we don’t look back and say we don’t have time cause we realized that we had optimized the available time to accomplish what we set out to do.

Focus…. that may be the keyword. With that we know that we would be accomplishing more than others giving the same resources thereby translating into others that may say “Why is he having so much time?”.

So the next time we know that we are running out of time or when are short of time, just focus and accomplish whatever that is needed. The phrase which we hear from young “Take your time…” actually doesn’t really help. Focus and accomplish, thereby knowing instantly that we have that extra time to accomplish more.

The one with the Muruku…

It was late at night and the only snack in the bedroom was a canister of muruku….

Wife: Are you hungry?

Hubby: Not really…..

Wife: Pass me that canister of muruku.

Hubby reached out to the side of the bed and handed over the canister of muruku to the wife. 1 min, 2 mins….. 5 mins. *crack, crunch* It was the hubby who was eating the muruku, more and more he dipped his fingers into the canister. Somehow, wondering why his wife was not eating it at all. After enjoying a whole lot of some muruku, thirst sets in. Hubby looked around looking for the water bottle only to realized that it was downstairs.

Hubby: Am going down to drink water and take the water bottle up, Dear.

Wife: Uh, ok.

As the hubby walked away and upon reaching the door to go downstairs, turned around and looked at his wife.

Hubby: You didn’t want to eat those muruku after all, you knew! You wanted to drink.

And they both laughed and thought that either one would have out-smarted the other.

The moral of the story is when we have our objectives and dreams set, sometimes there are many ways to achieve the desired results. After all, as the saying goes “all roads lead to Rome”.

Cast: Hubby (Sunny Lee), Wife (Mrs. Lee)…….need I say more, she got to drink after all.

Whose problem is it REALLY?

A man feared his wife wasn’t hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem.

The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here’s what you do,” said the Doctor, “stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.”

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, “I’m about 40 feet away, let’s see what happens.” Then in a normal tone he asks, ‘Honey, what’s for dinner?”

No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again he gets no response.

So he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

“James, for the FIFTH time I’ve said, CHICKEN!”

The problem may not be with the other person as we always think, could be very much within us!

Author: Anonymous

To every action there is always an equal reaction?

Everyday, we faced with many encounters with the people who we meet each day. Yeah… almost all of us wake up to an equally brand new day. We start our day thinking about all the excitement that we are about to receive every moment in our day.

Then, we realized that as human as we are, we sometimes go through a roller-coaster of mood swings or emotional change within the day. And, we very well know that it is we ourselves that we need to be reminded of how we re-act to each and every moment. This brings us to what Sir Isaac Newton’s third law of motion which is the Law of Reciprocal Actions.

To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions”.

True enough, our emotions react with the action of our sub-consciousness to anything by giving an equal reaction. That slow car in front of us, the grumpy partner, the mischievous kid, the rude waiter, the insensitive employee and to some of us that ever demanding boss.

For that very moment, we set ourselves in that very reaction of mood that we reflect it back to the other person only to realize later that it should not be reacted in that very manner. However, it is how fast we snap out of that state of emotion that really matters and to focus back into our mood that we intended it to be at the beginning of our day.

To me, its ok to be snapping into these moods of not being ourselves but a successful person would be one who almost immediately snapping back into their intended state of mind. Furthermore, we can’t be controlling what the other person is thinking or what might he may be going through.

Life is as such. Everyone that we meet, friends, loved ones, colleagues and even total strangers carry their own fair share or burdens on their backs. It is only nature that they have to let it out to the people that they meet. They like us too, do not like to pour out these mood swings to anyone.

We may think that we can’t be helping them, or we can’t be controlling what or how they behave with their moods. Think again! Instead of giving them the equal reaction to their action, we could break it and just SMILE. Priceless to that person who would receive those smiles and effortless to those who send them.

SMILE…. and if they noticed, you’ve let them find someone whom they can be relieving their baggage of burden. And when they relieve upon us, don’t take it personally and move on. We’ll be glad that we did, for someday, we would be also looking for someone else to relieve our own fair share of baggage of burdens and to be SMILED at.