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Really missing you

This is about how you are truly being missed.

Like a well crafted clockwork, it begins with the basic routine in the morning preparing to leave home.

Amidst heavy traffic, we immersed into our other self. Often the darker one. Surely without politeness and courtesy.

In a rush we clock for the fulfillment of the time which we wage ourselves for.

At midday, the decisiveness role of whom to eat with and what to eat tolls the only hour that we might have.

Only to return to our station to faithfully fulfill our daily obligations.

The final hour struck and we call it a day but, “ring, ring”…. it’s the mobile.

Relaxing with the drive home radio program and yet drowning into yet another traffic crawl rushing home.

Finally back home, home sweet home where Daddy’s little girl wants some time with her bedtime story after dinner.

Having tucked our angels to bed, and with our loved ones snuggling at the late night news.

We looked again at the most missed person of the day…..

It’s at the mirror. You finally remembered, what happened today. “I really missed you”. I have not been with MYSELF the entire day.

In our daily lives, we often focus so much on our surrounding and the people whom we love and interact with, only to missed the mere fact that they are who they are to us simply because of our existence. In short, Love Ourself.

“Genuine love should first be directed at oneself – if we do not love ourselves, how can we love others?” Dalai Lama


He who shares never fails to learn

Setting out for a journey to achieve ones dreams would take a lot of thinking and planning. It’s almost at every point that sometimes we wonder that we could ever learn enough. Having self-confidence and believe is one thing but to achieve what we set forth to achieve, we know that we need to continuously learn.

From our schooling days and within our own education system we all learn by merely reading and observing. Sometimes not knowing what should we learn or rather what we should unlearn. Then came the internet era where we are in the “K Economy” as in the knowledge economy whereby the internet provides almost all the answer that we could acquire. Aside from books that is, the internet truly provides us the comfort of learning.

During the past weeks, I was being busy with the drawing board to my future endeavors. I set forth daily meeting new friends and share with all that what I would be embarking on. With that, I realized that what I shared was more valuable than any learning that I could have from books and any other resources.

Maybe its the passion. Maybe it’s not a one way communication as in reading or maybe there is just so much more to learn. Learning from sharing on how other people would have perceived a certain thing or topic. And mostly, the “aha” moment flashing before us. And that’s when we know that we’ve learned more than to have shared with others.

And as most religions would have preached, “giving is better than receiving”. When one give, there must be one who is to receive and in return give to the one who has initially given.

Take your time…. really?

As I pen this, I realized that I have been playing catch up with my time. Funny as it seems, I was wondering about this like a month ago that by now I would have all the time in the world. Hmmmmmnnn, looks like time interprets differently to different people at different situations.

As I reflex on my pass, there wasn’t a time when I had enough time. Right from the days of my schooling days, time wasn’t enough until now, being into the employment world. Deadlines… deadlines. That’s why they’re spelled D-E-A-D-L-I-N-E-S.

And now I began to wonder, what’s with all these people who seems to have more time for everything else. It’s just that same 24 hours. Why and what’s the difference? Many of us define time as the minutes-hand or hour-hand that moves clockwise thereby giving us a measurement of what we call time. But, what about during those medieval times when clock wasn’t invented? The position of the sun?

To me, as I begin to ponder, time is just a void between accomplishing what is needed of us. Imagine… when we are so focused in doing something or let’s just say enjoying something, time flies but we don’t look back and say we don’t have time cause we realized that we had optimized the available time to accomplish what we set out to do.

Focus…. that may be the keyword. With that we know that we would be accomplishing more than others giving the same resources thereby translating into others that may say “Why is he having so much time?”.

So the next time we know that we are running out of time or when are short of time, just focus and accomplish whatever that is needed. The phrase which we hear from young “Take your time…” actually doesn’t really help. Focus and accomplish, thereby knowing instantly that we have that extra time to accomplish more.

What if we can’t afford a single mistake?

We’re often told that we should be learning from our mistakes and that we should always be standing up after we fall. Maybe this might give some of us some impression of having to taste certain degree of failures before we could succeed in what we want. But does this acts as a form of motivation? What, we fall and then climb up? Pushed ourselves so hard so that we would know the limit (when we fall?).

Alain Robert, a guy who shot to stardom with his numerous feats of scaling high rise buildings across the globe and also being handcuffed most of every time he scales a building. I received an email about Alian with pictures of him scaling some buildings. Besides giving me this “wow” feeling, I wondered. What is he doing it for? What’s in for him? So I decided to google him and I realized that he is a motivational speaker.

Actually, it really doesn’t matter who Alain is? But what ticks him to perform such death defying stunts. I visualized myself performing those feats. Nope, can’t be. You can’t even afford to make a single mistake. And, if you really do, you will not live to realize that you’ve made a mistake.

Climbing is my passion, my philosophy of life. Although I suffer from vertigo, although my accidents left me disabled up to 66%, I have become the best solo climber” Alain Robert.

Imagine just what would it be like if we were to have that courage to pursue what we would have wanted. Would we embark on something knowing that we could not even make a single mistake? Be grateful, thats what we were told. We have received so much even if we have fallen and made mistakes. I would say that we’re lucky or at least have certain degree of luxury of making mistakes and yet see our day through. Imagine if we’re like Alian Robert, where no mistakes are granted. Would we still be able to live through our day?

So, would it still be “Success is learning from a series of failures” or “Success is just not failing”. We would just have to figure this out.

Whats for lunch?

What’s for lunch? Kids ask that. Husbands and wives laugh and quarrel over it. MILs (mother-in-law) starring at the wall wondering what to cook.

We are not discussing about what we should be eating here nor is this a topic about culinary skills. It’s about decisions. Albeit, small ones. I realized that we make many decisions in a day without us really realizing it. Even before we wake up, we have already decided the night before, about the time that we should be waking up. At the closet, we decide about what we should be wearing. *Major one for the fairer gender*. Life is so full of choices, so much that we sometimes can’t decide for ourselves what we really want but yet we still go through every single day by making many choices.

What’s the difference of making these decisions of daily chores comparing with decisions that would change us? Are decisions be divided into simple ones against difficult ones? Could making decisions about daily chores be linked to our sub-conscious or it is a ‘need’ scenario.

I need to wake up at 6am (you have to wake up dude!). I need to eat my lunch (you’re hungry). I need to wear a business suit today (can’t present in my pyjamas). Whereas, those other decisions could be about stuffs that we are not so eager about…. that anything goes scenario. Whatever its in your mind? You’re right! That’s what I am talking about.

Guess we don’t need to be a genius to figure this part. When we have to do it (need), we WILL be decisive. It has to anyway. Whether I am going for that burger, fried chicken, pizza or any other choices….. I know for a fact that I have to eat, cause I AM HUNGRY. *so now, what’s for lunch?*

What a beautiful morning

There was this time when i was in a café early in the morning having my breakfast when I saw two persons sitting across me at different tables. The one on the left ordered a hot coffee of the day and the one sitting opposite the other table ordered a tall latte.

The one on the left seems to be having a “not -so-good” morning. Annoyed and agitated with each and every call that came through his mobile. I could see the frowning on his face. “Boy, he must be having a bad mood?”, I wondered.

On the other side, this guy who looks as if he was on top of the world sips his latte as he would taste a ten-year old wine. He is so cheerful until I could almost feel his joy and happiness.

Now, I wondered….. How can two persons be in the same environment feel so differently? They both choose to be at this café for their morning dose of caffeine. Nice ambience, nice coffee and nice service. Both of them have had the same to be offered at the same morning at the same place and yet both had very different moods. I bet their day would be very different. The one on the left would have chosen his day to be “one of those days” and the one on the right would have said to himself  “What a beautiful morning”.

I finished my breakfast and as I was leaving the café, I looked back and thought, “What a beautiful morning” and I knew its just a choice.

It’s always RED when we’re rushing!

Almost unbelievable! It’s just meters away. I was stationary at about the same place even when those lights changed three times. Guess thats why this picture which was taken by my E71 was rather well-focused and angled. That was how bad the traffic situation was. If we go on discussing about the traffic situation in this country, a book could be written. I am not about to blog about the horrendous side of our driving ethics and road mannerism. That, shouldn’t be hard for any Malaysians to figure out.

It’s always RED when we’re rushing! Well, yes…. you may say. Everyone has had that moment. Some of us have it daily. No, I don’t think it’s a coincidence. It’s about the moment that we’re in. When we’re not rushing, we’re more carefree and we enjoy the scenery and the music from the radio. On the contrary, we’re late. Consequences of being late brings unpleasant scenarios which we would want to avoid. Sweaty palms, increased heartbeat and even body temperature….. That’s when we swear at almost anything that comes along which would delay us. *just because we might be late*.

The same goes for our daily lives. Sometimes, when we’re agitated or being not in the mood, we tend to see everything in RED. It’s as if the whole world is turned against us. Some of us has this syndrome at the beginning of each week. It’s alright, we’re just as human as the next person to us. The point to ponder is that, when we see RED, how do we react and affect the others around us? As the saying goes, “Do unto others, what we want others to do unto us”. Be sensitive to the ones around us. Take a deep breath…. *viola* and the next best thing we know is, that’s history. So, the next time when we see RED, remember the lights. It’s always back to GREEN after RED and it could just be a deep breath away.