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Really missing you

This is about how you are truly being missed.

Like a well crafted clockwork, it begins with the basic routine in the morning preparing to leave home.

Amidst heavy traffic, we immersed into our other self. Often the darker one. Surely without politeness and courtesy.

In a rush we clock for the fulfillment of the time which we wage ourselves for.

At midday, the decisiveness role of whom to eat with and what to eat tolls the only hour that we might have.

Only to return to our station to faithfully fulfill our daily obligations.

The final hour struck and we call it a day but, “ring, ring”…. it’s the mobile.

Relaxing with the drive home radio program and yet drowning into yet another traffic crawl rushing home.

Finally back home, home sweet home where Daddy’s little girl wants some time with her bedtime story after dinner.

Having tucked our angels to bed, and with our loved ones snuggling at the late night news.

We looked again at the most missed person of the day…..

It’s at the mirror. You finally remembered, what happened today. “I really missed you”. I have not been with MYSELF the entire day.

In our daily lives, we often focus so much on our surrounding and the people whom we love and interact with, only to missed the mere fact that they are who they are to us simply because of our existence. In short, Love Ourself.

“Genuine love should first be directed at oneself – if we do not love ourselves, how can we love others?” Dalai Lama

He who shares never fails to learn

Setting out for a journey to achieve ones dreams would take a lot of thinking and planning. It’s almost at every point that sometimes we wonder that we could ever learn enough. Having self-confidence and believe is one thing but to achieve what we set forth to achieve, we know that we need to continuously¬†learn.

From our schooling days and within our own education system we all learn by merely reading and observing. Sometimes not knowing what should we learn or rather what we should unlearn. Then came the internet era where we are in the “K Economy” as in the knowledge economy whereby the internet provides almost all the answer that we could acquire. Aside from books that is, the internet truly provides us the comfort of learning.

During the past weeks, I was being busy with the drawing board to my future endeavors. I set forth daily meeting new friends and share with all that what I would be embarking on. With that, I realized that what I shared was more valuable than any learning that I could have from books and any other resources.

Maybe its the passion. Maybe it’s not a one way communication as in reading or maybe there is just so much more to learn. Learning from sharing on how other people would have perceived a certain thing or topic. And mostly, the “aha” moment flashing before us. And that’s when we know that we’ve learned more than to have shared with others.

And as most religions would have preached, “giving is better than receiving”. When one give, there must be one who is to receive and in return give to the one who has initially given.

Take your time…. really?

As I pen this, I realized that I have been playing catch up with my time. Funny as it seems, I was wondering about this like a month ago that by now I would have all the time in the world. Hmmmmmnnn, looks like time interprets differently to different people at different situations.

As I reflex on my pass, there wasn’t a time when I had enough time. Right from the days of my schooling days, time wasn’t enough until now, being into the employment world. Deadlines… deadlines. That’s why they’re spelled D-E-A-D-L-I-N-E-S.

And now I began to wonder, what’s with all these people who seems to have more time for everything else. It’s just that same 24 hours. Why and what’s the difference? Many of us define time as the minutes-hand or hour-hand that moves clockwise thereby giving us a measurement of what we call time. But, what about during those medieval times when clock wasn’t invented? The position of the sun?

To me, as I begin to ponder, time is just a void between accomplishing what is needed of us. Imagine… when we are so focused in doing something or let’s just say enjoying something, time flies but we don’t look back and say we don’t have time cause we realized that we had optimized the available time to accomplish what we set out to do.

Focus…. that may be the keyword. With that we know that we would be accomplishing more than others giving the same resources thereby translating into others that may say “Why is he having so much time?”.

So the next time we know that we are running out of time or when are short of time, just focus and accomplish whatever that is needed. The phrase which we hear from young “Take your time…” actually doesn’t really help. Focus and accomplish, thereby knowing instantly that we have that extra time to accomplish more.

Whose problem is it REALLY?

A man feared his wife wasn’t hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem.

The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here’s what you do,” said the Doctor, “stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.”

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, “I’m about 40 feet away, let’s see what happens.” Then in a normal tone he asks, ‘Honey, what’s for dinner?”

No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again he gets no response.

So he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. “Honey, what’s for dinner?”

“James, for the FIFTH time I’ve said, CHICKEN!”

The problem may not be with the other person as we always think, could be very much within us!

Author: Anonymous

To every action there is always an equal reaction?

Everyday, we faced with many encounters with the people who we meet each day. Yeah… almost all of us wake up to an equally brand new day. We start our day thinking about all the excitement that we are about to receive every moment in our day.

Then, we realized that as human as we are, we sometimes go through a roller-coaster of mood swings or emotional change within the day. And, we very well know that it is we ourselves that we need to be reminded of how we re-act to each and every moment. This brings us to what Sir Isaac Newton’s third law of motion which is the Law of Reciprocal Actions.

To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions”.

True enough, our emotions react with the action of our sub-consciousness to anything by giving an equal reaction. That slow car in front of us, the grumpy partner, the mischievous kid, the rude waiter, the insensitive employee and to some of us that ever demanding boss.

For that very moment, we set ourselves in that very reaction of mood that we reflect it back to the other person only to realize later that it should not be reacted in that very manner. However, it is how fast we snap out of that state of emotion that really matters and to focus back into our mood that we intended it to be at the beginning of our day.

To me, its ok to be snapping into these moods of not being ourselves but a successful person would be one who almost immediately snapping back into their intended state of mind. Furthermore, we can’t be controlling what the other person is thinking or what might he may be going through.

Life is as such. Everyone that we meet, friends, loved ones, colleagues and even total strangers carry their own fair share or burdens on their backs. It is only nature that they have to let it out to the people that they meet. They like us too, do not like to pour out these mood swings to anyone.

We may think that we can’t be helping them, or we can’t be controlling what or how they behave with their moods. Think again! Instead of giving them the equal reaction to their action, we could break it and just SMILE. Priceless to that person who would receive those smiles and effortless to those who send them.

SMILE…. and if they noticed, you’ve let them find someone whom they can be relieving their baggage of burden. And when they relieve upon us, don’t take it personally and move on. We’ll be glad that we did, for someday, we would be also looking for someone else to relieve our own fair share of baggage of burdens and to be SMILED at.

3-2-1…. now!

I just remembered this game I used to play whenever I come across power failures. I wonder how many of us do the same. When I was a kid, each time when there is a power failure I use to start my game of countdown. It goes like…. 3-2-1 now! Whenever I reach now!, I would have anticipated that electricity would be restored. Well, it was really fun then when at times I really do hit the dot and viola brightness everywhere.

It never occurs to me that I would have to reach out for the candles in the first instance. I would just wait and wait and do those countdowns. Why not reaching for those candles when I needed light?

Now, as I recall this, I wonder, in our daily lives we too at times wait for these countdowns. And if it doesn’t happen we would pacify ourselves and say “never mind, the next round”. But then, sometimes in life we will never know which next round would bring us that moment.

Looking back, if there is a power failure now, it seems childish to be doing these countdowns. It’s like hoping for things to happen. Frankly, I would have gone straight to the switch boxes or at least reach out for those candles. *some might say call TNB*.

True enough, most of the time we would wait and do those countdowns. Whether its completing a project, starting something or ending something. Sometimes, in life it never happens. If it is light that we want, reach out for those candles. There are many things that we want in our life but it’s just that we are simply not making it happen. We being as humane as any other would just do those countdowns and hope for miracles to happen.

Miracles… do they happen or did we just grab that box of matches and made it come true. *food for thought*

Whats for lunch?

What’s for lunch? Kids ask that. Husbands and wives laugh and quarrel over it. MILs (mother-in-law) starring at the wall wondering what to cook.

We are not discussing about what we should be eating here nor is this a topic about culinary skills. It’s about decisions. Albeit, small ones. I realized that we make many decisions in a day without us really realizing it. Even before we wake up, we have already decided the night before, about the time that we should be waking up. At the closet, we decide about what we should be wearing. *Major one for the fairer gender*. Life is so full of choices, so much that we sometimes can’t decide for ourselves what we really want but yet we still go through every single day by making many choices.

What’s the difference of making these decisions of daily chores comparing with decisions that would change us? Are decisions be divided into simple ones against difficult ones? Could making decisions about daily chores be linked to our sub-conscious or it is a ‘need’ scenario.

I need to wake up at 6am (you have to wake up dude!). I need to eat my lunch (you’re hungry). I need to wear a business suit today (can’t present in my pyjamas). Whereas, those other decisions could be about stuffs that we are not so eager about…. that anything goes scenario. Whatever its in your mind? You’re right! That’s what I am talking about.

Guess we don’t need to be a genius to figure this part. When we have to do it (need), we WILL be decisive. It has to anyway. Whether I am going for that burger, fried chicken, pizza or any other choices….. I know for a fact that I have to eat, cause I AM HUNGRY. *so now, what’s for lunch?*